Noticing What Lives in the Body
Rewiring Love
Deconstructing Possessive Conditioning for Secure, Conscious Non-Monogamy
You don’t need to eradicate jealousy to be “evolved.”
You don’t need to bypass fear to be doing non-monogamy well.
And you don’t need to untangle decades of conditioning all at once.
What’s being asked instead is something gentler—and more sustainable:
the willingness to notice what you were taught about love, and how it still lives in your body.
Most of us were raised inside a cultural story where love meant possession, exclusivity equaled security, and jealousy was framed as proof of care. Even when we intellectually reject those ideas, they don’t simply disappear. They surface as nervous-system responses, protector strategies, self-doubt, comparison, and panic—often at the exact moments we want to feel most grounded.
This workshop is an invitation to slow down and begin rewiring those stories—with compassion, not force.
This Workshop Is Designed to Be Experienced, Not Pushed Through
You’re welcome to move through this recording in one sitting, or to return to it in pieces over time. There’s no “right” pace here.
Many people find it most supportive to:
Watch once without trying to fix anything. Let your body register what feels familiar, uncomfortable, or relieving. Let the material land somatically before making meaning of it.
Pause when you feel activated. That stirring is information, not failure, and is often where the deepest rewiring begins.
Revisit the somatic reflections when jealousy or fear shows up in real life—especially before conversations.
Return to the belief prompts as your relationships evolve. These questions often open differently over time.
You don’t need to apply every insight immediately.
Small awareness shifts count.
Gentle noticing counts.
Coming back later counts.
A Few Gentle Reminders as You Integrate
Jealousy is not a failure—it’s a signal.
Fear doesn’t mean you’re unfit for non-monogamy.
Unlearning takes time and intentional effort, because these stories were learned early and continue to be reinforced often my mainstream monogamous culture.
Security isn’t created by control. It’s built through attunement, clarity, pacing, and choice.
And often, the most radical shift isn’t changing your relationship structure—it’s changing how you relate to yourself inside it.
Post-Workshop Reflection & Integration
Included with this workshop are reflection prompts in the PDF below, designed to support ongoing integration.
You might also journal about questions like:
Which of the six mono-normative beliefs about love feel hardest to let go of—and why?
What part of me learned this story first?
How does my body respond when this belief is challenged?
What would feel like a slightly more spacious experiment in love right now?
There is no rush. No final destination to arrive at.
Just more awareness, more choice, and a little more trust in your own inner compass than before.