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A Somatic Approach to Navigating Non-Monogamy & Polyamory with Security and Self-Trust

You probably didn’t expect to be here—googling “how to handle jealousy in non-monogamy.”
Maybe opening up your relationship wasn’t your idea, or maybe it was.
Maybe it started as a dream—or a compromise.
Either way, you’re in it now. And it’s a lot more emotionally complex than you expected.

You want to feel grounded, chosen, and secure.
But instead, your nervous system is sounding the alarm every time your partner leaves for a date.

You’re not broken.
You’re not too much.
And you’re definitely not alone.

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Let’s work together to regulate your nervous system, reconnect with your truth, and build the secure, spacious relationships you deserve.

✨ What You Likely Want

You want non-monogamy to feel expansive—not terrifying.
You want to know you’re loved, prioritized, and enough…
Even when your partner is with someone else.

Most of my clients want the same things:

  • Reassurance that doesn’t require you to beg for it

  • Confidence in your connection—even when you're not the only one

  • A way to handle jealousy without stuffing it down or spiraling

  • A deeper understanding of your own needs and boundaries

  • To stop wondering if you’re “the problem” for feeling the way you do

😔 What You’re Likely Experiencing Instead

Even though you get non-monogamy in theory, your body is telling a different story.
You try to play it cool… but your chest tightens.
Your stomach drops.
Your mind races with comparison, fear, or grief.

💔 Emotional Intimacy Triggers
“Are they more connected than we are?”

💔 Physical Intimacy Triggers
“Are they more turned on by someone else?”

And through it all, you're afraid to speak up—worried it’ll make you seem insecure, jealous, or controlling.

So you keep it in. But it’s taking a toll.

💡 Here’s the Truth

If you're struggling, it doesn't mean you're not cut out for this.

Our culture wires us to equate love with possession.
To believe that being “the one and only” is the ultimate proof of worth.
So when your relationship opens, your nervous system can panic—registering it as danger, even if your mind says it's okay.

This is where mindset work alone falls short.
The real shift happens in the body.

🛠 Inside Our Work Together

I work with individuals, couples, triads, and polycules—offering both single sessions and a 5 or 10-week deep dive through my signature program, TRUE Relating.

In our time together, we might explore:

  1. Deepening Self-Awareness & Uncovering Limiting Beliefs
    Clarify your values, desires, and relational truth beyond societal scripts.

  2. Regulating the Nervous System Through Somatic Tools
    Build emotional resilience and learn to soothe the parts of you that feel scared or overwhelmed.

  3. Transforming Jealousy into Growth & Connection
    Use challenging emotions as doorways to healing, intimacy, and deeper love.

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Introducing: The T.R.U.E. Method™

My Framework to Rewire Fear, Regulate Jealousy & Root Into Secure Love

A 4-step process to help people practicing non-monogamy and polyamory shift from just surviving… to truly thriving.

T — Thoughtfully Rewire Fear

Notice the story the brain is telling—both the personal fears and the cultural conditioning inherited around love, worth, and exclusivity. Begin to gently rewire these mono-normative beliefs and fear-based narratives, creating space for new possibilities grounded in self-trust and conscious choice.

R — Regulate the Nervous System

Downshift from threat to safety using body-based practices that soothe and anchor. When old patterns or relational triggers arise, this inner regulation helps us stay grounded and responsive, rather than reactive.

U — Use Clear Self Awareness to Communicate Effectively

From this more centered place, bring mindful presence into our communication. Speak from the “wise adult” Self, not the reactive part—clearly and compassionately naming needs, boundaries, and desires while staying anchored in curiosity, care, and consent.

E — Embody Secure Relating

Explore the deeper roots of big emotional responses—tending to wounds, protective strategies, and internalized scripts. Then, practice new relational behaviors rooted in secure attachment, resilience, and alignment with authentic values—moment by moment.

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🧠 Why It Works

Because we’re not just battling our thoughts.
We’re navigating a paradigm shift.
And our nervous system needs a new map.

This isn’t about forcing anyone to be okay with something that hurts.
It’s about rebuilding trust and safety—within ourself first.

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👋 My Story

I’ve walked this path. I’ve cried through heartbreak that didn’t fit into any cultural box. I’ve sat in therapy wondering why I felt devastated about a lover when I had a happy marriage.

That pain cracked me open—and led me to the healing work that changed my life.

It took me over a decade—of therapy, books, trial and error—to unravel mono-normative conditioning, not just in my mind, but in my body.

I had to stop outsourcing my worth. To stay present with the parts of me that wanted to run, chase, cling, or shut down.

To re-pattern what safety and intimacy felt like in my body, not just what I believed about it in my mind.

I went the LONG way so you don’t have to.

I’ve since condensed what I learned into a clear process that helps people shortcut the confusion, heartbreak, and overwhelm I faced with non-monogamy, so they can start designing love on their own terms.

Not through more rules or intellectualizing.
But through somatic practices that regulate and rewire the nervous system.

💛 This Work Is for People Who Are…

  • Practicing (or opening to) non-monogamy and struggling with jealousy, fear, or uncertainty

  • Have tried books, podcasts, and even therapy—but still feel dysregulated and insecure

  • Unsure how to build a healthy, sustainable foundation for more expansive ways of relating

  • Ready to feel grounded and secure in non-monogamous relationships

✖️This Isn’t A Good Fit If You’re Looking for…

  • A quick fix or one-size-fits-all formula to “do it right”

  • Tools to change or control a partner instead of focusing on individual growth

  • A way to avoid discomfort or stay in old patterns without doing deeper work

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“I’m ready to stop spiraling and start feeling secure with non-monogamy.”

Relationship Coaching Testimonials

  • My partner and I started this journey intent on finding ways to manage our emotional states within non monogamy but we received so much more. We had sought therapy multiple times over the years but hadn’t been able to break our pattern of fighting that often escalated quickly and left us both very disregulated. Working with Aria gave us words to name not just feelings but what was happening in our bodies and gave us tools to interrupt a cycle that has been established over many years together. We now feel better equipped to manage and navigate through conflict whether that’s navigating nonmonogamy or breaking old habits of conflict. We have news ways of relating to each other, building healthy means of communication allowing us both to feel heard and cared for.

    - Samantha, she/her, polyamorous for 4+ years

  • Aria came along just when I needed her most! After practicing solo poly for 4 years I was ready to dive deeper into being more intentional. Universe shook up my relationships and gave me plenty of real life material to work through with Aria in our relationship coaching. Each week the material that Aria presented was exactly what I needed at that moment. The content was relatable, easy to understand, and most of all incredibly helpful in practical tangible ways. I feel much more grounded in myself now. Aria helped me to lovingly uncover the ways in which I was sabotaging myself, in particular the mono-normative programing that was creating subconscious conflict for my poor nervous system. I was able to apply the tools Aria taught me to navigate some powerful conversations with my lover. With her support we navigated redefining our relationship with love and grace. When I feel wobbly I am able to pull out my tool box and regulate myself in a way that I couldn't before.

    -Emma, solo poly, 4.5 years

  • "I got clear on what it is I am seeking from my relationship structures, my own needs for feeling safe in a connection, confidence to assert those needs, and tools for conversation and navigating conflict. I feel so much more comfortable in my non-monogamous journey and more capable of navigating inevitable road bumps as they arise.”

    - LUCY, non-monogamous, open, poly-curious for 1.5 years

  • "Aria has been an invaluable resource who has helped me to expand the depth and quality of my relationships and life experience, and it only keeps getting better. I highly recommend working with Aria to anyone new or feeling challenged in polyamory, or experiencing nervous system dysregulation that would benefit from stability and confidence. I've found Aria to be a beacon of clarity and growth in my journey."

    - AUBREY, Queer, Polyamorous / Solo Poly for 10 months

  • "I have had sessions with Aria Diana over the past three months, exploring solo polyamory as my preferred relationship style. Her calm support and insightful tools have been invaluable on my journey of self-discovery. Aria is good at asking the right questions. Working with her over Zoom has provided the support I need and that I couldn't easily find locally."

    - WABI SABI, she/her, solo polyamorous for 1 year

  • "Aria is a great resource for anyone interested in further exploring the depths of polyamory and non-monogamy. As someone who consumes a lot of literature and podcasts about open relationships, it was so refreshing to be able to speak to someone with experience directly. Aria's approach is very pragmatic and I was impressed by the many tangible exercises she offered to help improve my mindset and communication style."

    - C, open, queer, polyamorous

  • "Working with Aria is grounding. She holds me in a safe and secure container where I feel free to be me and know I will be accepted. She gives me hope and communication tools that I am using and getting great results. I've spent thousands of dollar in traditional therapy, but there is something about Aria and the way she works with my strengths and my weaknesses that I feel I've gotten more out of 3 session with her that I did with my therapist."

    - SALLY, open-hearted and open-minded

  • “After this experience, I know myself more deeply. I feel more connected to my partner. I feel more certain of my non-mongamous capacity and desires.”

    - MICHELLE, she/her, poly-curious for 3 years

  • “I'm excited about this next phase of our relationship because of this work. We now have the key principles, frameworks and contexts for moving forward with non-monogamy, and are more well positioned to explore different dimensions of our relationship and avoid codependent tendencies.”

    - PETE, he/him, theoretically poly

  • "Aria Diana brings so much wisdom as she covers the emotional aspects as well as some really practical aspects of being in a non-monogamous relationship. I really appreciated some tools that she shared that you can use to implement immediately. After the program I feel more in touch with myself and my desires, and more equipped for navigating relationships.”

    - LAURA, she/her, non-monogamous for 6 months

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Whether you’re monogamish, brand new to open relationships, or you have a complex polyamorous relationship ecosystem, (or something in between), all of your curiosity and questions are welcome here, with zero judgment.

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