Rewiring Love: Deconstructing Possessive Conditioning for Secure, Conscious Non-Monogamy
What if your relationships felt freer, more secure, and truly aligned with your values—without old monogamous believes about love and control holding you back?
Creating relationships rooted in trust and freedom takes more than just choosing non-monogamy…
It requires unlearning the deep cultural conditioning that tells us love = possession, jealousy = proof of love, and exclusivity = commitment.
These beliefs don’t just disappear; they show up in our nervous systems, our self-worth and the assumptions we bring into relationships—until we consciously rewire them.
What You’ll Explore Inside this Gentle Trauma-Informed Workshop
An Exploration of Six Core Mono-Normative Beliefs We Inherit About Love
Mononormativity refers to the cultural assumption that monogamy—having one romantic and/or sexual partner at a time—is the default, natural, or most legitimate way to do relationships.
Because this assumption is rarely named, it tends to operate invisibly. Most of us absorb it simply by growing up in this culture—through family structures, religion, media, law, and social approval—long before we ever consciously choose how we want to love.
Even when we intellectually question monogamy, mono-normative beliefs often remain active in the body. They shape what feels safe, what triggers fear or jealousy, and what our nervous system interprets as “threat” or “security.”
In this workshop, you’ll be guided through six core mono-normative beliefs many of us have inherited—and how they quietly shape our expectations, fears, and reactions in relationship.
Rather than debating whether these beliefs are “true” or “wrong,” we focus on:
Where they live in your body
How they show up under stress
What they’re trying to protect
Somatic Awareness & Nervous-System Mapping
Because beliefs about love don’t just live in our thoughts—they live in our physiology.
You’ll be invited to notice:
Tension, bracing, collapse, or urgency
The difference between intellectual agreement and embodied safety
How fear and jealousy are often survival responses, not character flaws
IFS-Inspired Parts Work
We gently meet the parts of you that learned these stories early—and have been working hard to keep you safe ever since. There’s no pressure to get rid of these parts. The work is about relationship, not eradication.
Conscious Relationship Design
From this place of awareness, we begin exploring how to design relationships that reflect your actual values—not inherited scripts.
This may include:
Rethinking commitment outside of exclusivity
Exploring safety as an ecosystem rather than a single agreement
Allowing relationships to be shaped through consent, pacing, and choice
This is a space to get curious, not critical. We’re here to gently notice — so we can begin to choose relationships rooted in trust, freedom, and conscious love.
Who This Is For
🌿 People exploring non-monogamy who feel stuck in jealousy, fear, or competition
🌿 People who want to understand why their body reacts with panic even when they logically want non-monogamy. Because beliefs about love live in the body, not just the mind, we need tools that work with the nervous system—not just logic.
🌿 Folks deconstructing cultural or familial scripts around possessive, controlling love
🌿 Anyone who wants to design relationships more consciously — whether monogamous, polyamorous, or something in between
What to Bring
🧘♀️ Journal & pen
🎨 Art supplies (optional for those who like creative processing)
☕ A cozy drink & an attitude of curiosity
Reviews from Live Workshop Participants:
“This was super helpful .” - Tre
“I didn’t realize just how much there was to unlearn.” - Amber
“Looking back on a past relationship where we opened it up, I didn’t understand what I was feeling. Now, re-evaluating it, I see it was a loss of self-worth—a trigger response from monogamous conditioning that I couldn’t explain at the time. Thinking about it this way makes more sense now.” - Christopher
Unlock the course below for just $24
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Deconstructing Possessive Conditioning for Secure, Conscious Non-Monogamy
You don’t need to eliminate jealousy, bypass fear, or undo decades of conditioning to do non-monogamy well—what’s being asked instead is a gentler, more sustainable practice: noticing what you were taught about love and how it still lives in your body.
You don’t need to eliminate jealousy, bypass fear, or undo decades of conditioning to do non-monogamy well—what’s being asked instead is a gentler, more sustainable practice: noticing what you were taught about love and how it still lives in your body.
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